He confess it to the bishop and the bishop said to him to ask for the lords forgiveness, pray and fast and also ask for my forgiveness to his mistakes to me. I want to serve a mission, but know this sin from a couple months ago is holding me back. Thank you. It makes sense to me, which is one of the reasons why I believe it. He didnt ask me when the last time I viewed it was though. I hope you mentioned this to your bishop. May God bless and be with you. The Church doesnt give local priesthood leaders a lot of direct guidance on the subject, I believe, because they want leaders to let the Holy Ghost guide them. Ive talked to the bishop and confessed, but Im worried I wont be able to go on a mission because Ive had unclean thoughts since then and I know you must submit your mission papers five months ahead of your availability date, which for me will be in January. We must restore as far as possible all that has been damaged by our actions, whether that is someones property or someones good reputation. When I was less active, I made a dummy account and I usually ask naked picture of others. Satan understands this. Regarding a temple recommend, for that you definitely will need to talk to your bishop. As we repent, we continually improve ourselves. Hi, so I converted to the church 2 years ago and have been living and doing everything to the best of my ability, I stopped drinking alcohol and coffee the moment the missionaries told me and I havent had sex for about 4 years now. My boyfriend has just recently come back from his mission and he and I have been seriously talking about being married in the next year. I hope everything goes well for you. Good luck and God bless. I broke LOC when I was 20, I confessed it to the bishop and repented on it, now Im 23. From my experience, people who have truly repented, truly changed, are deserving of our greatest admiration and respect. Sometimes, Ive wondered if Ill ever be able to go on a mission. Your bishop will be able to help you know what must be done to repent and become clean and when it will be complete. May God bless and be with you. It came to pass that as I was harrowed up by the memory of my many sins, behold, I remembered also to have heard my father prophesy concerning the coming of one Jesus Christ, a Son of God, to atone for the sins of the world. Repentance Begins with Faith in Jesus Christ In order to repent, we need to believe that God will forgive us, and then take the actions needed for us to change. This change of mind also embraces Jesus in the same way. Let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. (Galatians 6:9). Scott, I would give you similar advice that I have given other young men in your situation. Using will power to effect change in life is often not effective. What is repentance? I dont trust the bishop I have now, he and I arent close and I really have a bad feeling about him. I have been researching this for the past two years. You may be surprised at how understanding and loving she will be. I am very much aware that it is wrong but cant help to speak up for myself because I really dont want to lose her and I love her just as my bff. Good luck. I worry about making mistakes. Have faith, be prayerful, immerse yourself in the scriptures and the word of God, and let the Holy Spirit be your guide. Hi so when I was 12 I was sucked into the addiction of pornography for 5 months, I knew it was bad but I didnt understand how bad. When you speak with him again, you may want to ask him about the Churchs Addiction Recovery Program. Keeping the Law of Chastity. Be her partner. i really want to repent.. i already confessed this with our Heavenly Father.. i am ashamed and very embarrassed to talk about this to our bishop, i dont have the strength to confess. Now, hes allowing me to go to the temple. Of course, youll want to talk to your bishop about it since he represents that Lord in making that determination. Laura, like you said, lets assume the guy has resolved his transgressions, because even if he didnt, thats between him and the Lord. We went to the Mission Office together and we were placed on a repentace process,we spent about 7days reading the Book of Mormon and having interviews with the Mission President,he said that he has forgiven us since we have the desire to change,but the 8th day,we receive our flight ticket to go home..Infact I have been in a shocked state ever since. Repentance makes it possible for us to grow and develop spiritually again. God loves you and needs you. He needs men of the covenant who keep their covenants with integrity. See 2Nephi 9:23; Mosiah 4:6; 3Nephi 9:22; 27:19. See RussellM. Nelson, Repentance and Conversion, 1034. Answer. Hello, I am a 59 year old man, born and raised a Catholic. Remember that because of the death and suffering of our Savior Jesus Christ, his atoning sacrifice, and by following His prescribed ordinances, though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool (Isaiah 1:18). Confession. But all thats left is seeing a bishop. How serious is oral sex with a person of the same gender. The Lord has said, By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sinsbehold, he will confess them and forsake them (Doctrine and Covenants 58:43). Repentance and forgiveness are complementary principles. The bishop of the ward where you are currently living has the keys of the priesthood to preside over you and he has been given the gift of discernment from God (see D&C 46:27). The decision pertaining to excommunication would result from the leader with priesthood keys who presides at the disciplinary . To teach the people to repent and to obtain the power of repentance in their personal lives so that they could develop self-control and get their feet on the path that leads to salvation. The Lord has declared that no unclean thing can inherit the kingdom of heaven (Alma 11:37). Could a person go through the outward practice of the law and never do it with full intent? Sometimes we sin because of ignorance, sometimes because of our weaknesses, and sometimes because of willful disobedience. And consider opening up to your mom as well. I know my bishop is the only one who can give me a difiinitve answer on that but Im curious for an estimate. Bnd I dont know if I have truly sinned or not. Thanks! Hey, so lets say that you confessed and went about a week, and barely started a minute of masterbaition, but then stopped ?? My dear brethren, it is inspiring to look out over this vast congregation of the Lords battalion of priesthood bearers. Do you get a different call? The hardest thing Ive done in my life is to prepare to serve a mission. He often spoke of the need for us to repent. You can start by telling him the generalities of what happened, and he will ask for additional details as he considers them relevant. The bishop knows about past masturbation problems now Im trying to overcome the habit but temptation is always there. -Ether 12:27 And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I literally have been marking each day on my calendar that I have gone in sobriety and I am desperately trying to overcome this one addiction. There are some scenarios where divorce may be the proper choice. I have prayed, fasted, read scriptures and continue doing so. He will ask enough questions to understand the situation and how serious it was and what will need to be done to fully repent. For I am able to make you holy, and your sins are forgiven you. D&C 60:7 (see my post Missionary Work Cleanses Sin). drugs, pornography, language, un- chaste activities. General ConferenceNo Ordinary Blessing, I Can Find Answers through General Conference, Strengthening Families by Increasing Spirituality, The Sealing Ordinance Links Families Eternally, Relief Society History: A Look at the Lords Vision for His Daughters, Preparation of All Kinds Blesses Saints in Joplin, Missouri, New Mission Presidents Blessed for Exercise of Faith, Seven Sisters Let Their Light Shine in the Mission Field at the Same Time, Repentance and Forgiveness in Marriage, Ensign, Sept. 2011, 1417, School of Family Life, Brigham Young University. If its possible, PUSH (Pray until something happens) Dont feel like you arent getting an answer so why bother, keep praying, remember Ether prayed all day. I pray that you can continue to prepare and that youll make an excellent missionary some day. Please let me know if there are any questions I can answer about our faith, the Church, the people, the doctrine, etc. No sooner. Am I allowed to be a missionary in my older age, to serve in the Church, or to even reach the highest degree of Celestial glory? is it possible to repent and go on a mission without talking to your bishop or telling your parents? Keep a prayer in your heart always!! Would you have to go start over and go that certain amount of months again? Yeah, around 20 min were cut. I hope and pray you are doing better on your addiction. -If you ever participated in an abortion. Eventually I was able to stop involving myself with it, and I prayed and asked for forgiveness, but I still was taking the sacrament and was too embarrassed and afraid to tell anyone because I didnt want them to be disappointed. Keep attending your Church meetings, and keep listening to the whispering of the Holy Ghost, and you will be led to all the blessings of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. Robert, Thanks for reaching out. But I was wondering is that even still a possibility for me? By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sinsbehold, he will confess them and forsake them. (D&C 58:43) For small sins, that confession can be to God in prayer, but for major sins, it is important to confess to both God and to your priesthood leader. Where as worldly sorrow comes from the fear of worldly punishment or consequence that we may find unpleasant, Godly sorrow moves us to repentance when we realize that God is offended by sin, that we have made a mistake, and that we need to repent if we want to live with Him again. We need to teach them, as Elder Robbins suggests, to come to the sacrament table every week with a fresh attitude and full of enthusiasm. And also please know that God loves you and with strengthen you and support you. best lds talks on repentance. He needs men who intentionally work to hear the voice of the Spirit with clarity. Dont feel bad about telling someone else NO, you arent doing anyone a favor by saying yes, not you, not them, not christ, not the satan. But scence then everything has been pointing me to go. Therefore, he should make plans to speak with his bishop as soon as possible. Just like when the Nephites went to battle against the Lamanites and prepared themselves with defensive armor, you must be prepared to defend yourself from Satans temptations each day. When I was 12 or 13, I left the Church after my dad stopped going after he stumbled on some information about Joseph Smith and Church history. A person simply cannot properly serve the Lord when they have a serious, unresolved sin in their life. Do these things and I know the Lord will bless and help you in miraculous ways. So I took that and said to myself Im not. It does seem like a confusing situation. Satan and his devils are trying to persuade us to make bad choices. After repenting and waiting the year can I serve when I turn 19? Satan knows who you are and who you were premortally, and he understands the work that must be done before the Savior returns. Good luck and God bless. Second, know that the battle against Satan is real, and when you go into battle each day, you should prepare yourself just like when the Nephites. As you talk to your bishop, and complete all the steps of the repentance process, you will be preparing yourself for a mission, temple marriage, and eternal life with Heavenly Father. Jeffery, Youll probably want to have a sit down meeting with your bishop to clarify everything, including the time table of when you last slipped into these transgressions. "Yes, we will make mistakes. Your bishop is the one who determines that. I testify that the Savior not only heals broken souls; He also heals broken hearts. It sounds like you have learned that lesson and youll be a better women for it in the future. Until shes doing things to me that is close to breaking the loc, it involves a lot of touching and kissing. What does repentance entail? Most law of chastity violations are serious sins and require confessing to the bishop. How do I get over this, if I go to the bishop will I get excommunicated or made to do some horrible thing? I know I can do better, and fully intend to never slip up again. disfellowshipment? Will my process be long or will I be excommunicated? The repentance process may seem long and difficult, but with the help of the Lord and your family and friends, I know that you can do it. 1 year? This is all so fresh, I was still so against the church probably three days ago, but I want to change. So be sure to talk to your bishop as soon as possible. For the longest time I thought the life style I was living was making me happy. To become free from it, we must turn to our Heavenly Father, pray in faith, and act as He asks us to. The mark we aim for is Jesus Christ. The adversary is quadrupling his efforts to disrupt testimonies and impede the work of the Lord. . Come to God through prayer, scripture study, and religious devotion. He sent His Son to die for us and show us the way back to His presence. I feel so guilty for it, so I told him we arent doing that anymore, and we havent for about a month now. Our sincere sorrow should lead us to forsake (stop) our sins. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son that the world through him might be saved. (John 3:16-17). What is sin? Be humble, be prayerful, strengthen your relationship with God, and I know he will heal and bless you. The scriptures advise us further not to justify our sinful practices (see Luke 16:1516). I know you dont want your parents or friends at church to be disappointed in you, but remember that what God thinks is more important than what other people think of you. We are all indebted to our Savior for His Atonement which makes repentance possible. There are, though, many factors the Lord, and the bishop, will consider when determining the length and specifics of the repentance process. And presuming you are the person who left the previous comment that was more sexually explicit (which I have removed), I suggest you ask the bishop to put you in connection with the Churchs addiction recovery programs. In addition, we must confess serious sinssuch as adultery, fornication, homosexual relations, spouse or child abuse, and the sale or use of illegal drugswhich might affect our standing in the Church, to the proper priesthood authority. Through their tears they would ask, Bishop, how can I ever forgive my spouse? We would then talk about the Atonement and its ability to heal broken hearts and to give us the ability to forgive. The reason I was told we got sent home was we refused to repent. Abandonment of Sin. Youre Heavenly Father loves you and has provided the way for you to change and improve through the Atonement of His Son Jesus Christ. Im also glad to hear that you have cleaned up your language and began adhering to the Word of Wisdom. 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